Atheona questioned:
I found out that my husband has been cheating on me in this area 3 months ago. He’s rumor has it that been doing it ever since we were dating. I agreed to giving him a second chance but for some wits I can’t stop thinking in this area it. I constantly see him with her and wonder where he is. Someone please help me!!!
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Ditch him.
He doesn’t seem like he cares,or the one for you.
Your one wouldn’t hurt you at all.
And wouldn’t reckon twice in this area cheating.
You sound like you deserve surpass.
this is something you will never get over hon
leave him if he does somethin once he will 100% repeat it again and it also depends on what he did
u dont get over it u get rid of your husband once a cheater permanently a cheater
cheat back and see how he likes it.
You might want to go on. If he has done it all along why would he stop now?
Find yourself a guy, screw his brains out and record it on a home movie. Then give it to your husband to watch so he can completely know the way you have been feeling!
I say, divorce him, he is NOT worth your time and try and I’m SURE you will find someone surpass that WON”t cheat on you
you don’t get over the treason, you go on, and eventually forget in this area it, but it takes time, but full that all your relationship has been one huge lie, i wouldnt give him another chance, i would divorce him and take him for whatever he has.
I was with a cheating husband for years. I found out in this area a couple, of course there was more…did I really reckon that I was so “on top” of it that each time he cheated I found out? Of course not. I never got over it. I could place it in the past and not bring it up. But I never forgave (as far as he knew I did) and I never forgot. I held a lot of resentment that I didn’t even know existed till the end. When I finally woke up and realized that I didn’t like him any longer, it rocked his world. I was over him and went on long before he knew it was coming.
He’s permanently going to cheat. If you can deal with that fact, then there’s no need to break up. But if you can’t leave now. You’re only setting yourself up for more hurt.
Packing his sh*t up, throwing it out the door, and changing the locks would help a lot.
You have to grasp that this wasn’t your fault. He’s to blame for this, he’s the one that chose to be unfaithful and go further than of the wedding ceremony. So the initially thing is to not beat yourself up over HIS choice. You have to try and place all this behind you. It’s going to take some time to get over this. It helps if you can forgive him, it’ll help with finding inner peace with yourself, so that you’re not fuming deep down inside. The past is the past and even though you can’t change it you can learn from it. You can take something terrible and turn it into something clear. I reckon forgiving him is key to being able to go forward with your life. Sure, it still hurts and it’ll take you some time to deal with it, but you can do it.
I assume anyone I’m with will cheat, and I’m okay with that as long as I don’t find out, he’s home for dinner, and I remain the numero uno in his life. When he has a relationship, now that’s crappy.
I am sorry to hear that, but the truth is, you can forgive but you can never forget. It’s very hard. You will never feel the same again when it comes your husband. If you really want to give your husband a second chance, fiirst you need inner healing, your inside needs to be healed, you have to learn to like yourself differently, putting your passion in life initially instead of your relationship is a excellent start. When you are able to find ‘liberation’ in within yourself, that is when you are letting go and hopefully it will leads to a new beginning for your relationship with your husband provided if he is a changed man.
A 2nd chance, you might as well have slapped him on the wrist and let him bring the girl home. That is a terrible feeling, to feel seconded after saying your I DOs! You need to get out of this quick and simple. You should hold your head up and be a women you where BORN to be. No women should ever feel 2nd in a wedding ceremony, cheating is not a way to deal with problems. If everything was fine an dandy then he must have issue with himself. You giving this man his cake an Ice cream. I reckon you should, take his plate and shove it right in his face! Make him miss what he had, because hunny what he had was nothing compared what you will have after this. Its called carma, and if you place all your like and might into this and strips it all from you and make you feel weak and stupid…… it will call back to to the both of you twice and much! You need to surround yourself with family and friends! Lots of like and laughs because it will be hard, BUT NO NOOOO NOOOOO WOMEN, DESERVES TO BE FEEL 2nd…. WE DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BEST IN A MARRIAGE! GO GET YOUR RESPECT BACK AND KICK OUT THE DOG!
It is surpass to be separated from him. Earliest is the BEST.
I will be honest with you. You will never feel the same way in this area him again. I had this happen to me and I tried to talk myself into forgetting but I couldn’t. The fact he lied and broke our vows was more than i could handle. I felt like trash and they were the ones who were gutter trash. I still reckon in this area it and it has been 27 years ago. You can stay together but it will never leave your mind. You can forgive him for it but it will never be really forgotten. I finally divorced him.
Set your sights on the future and if you can snatch his butt up and straighten him out…do so.
Your future and his depends on you now!
You’re not ready to forgive him yet. Drop the pretenses and let him know he messed up. Go with your feelings, if he brings up a lot of rage and hurt.. do what YOU need to do to alleviate your pain. Have a trial separation, spend time with people who do care in this area you, take a vacation (w/o him, of course).
When you’re ready to deal with the reality of the situation… seek marital counseling. If he’s serious in this area making your relationship work, he will do whatever it takes to get back on your excellent side.
Also lay down some fundamental impose a curfew rules– ex: under no circumstances is he to contact the other woman again. Give him consequences– if he does contact her again after he told you he wouldn’t, then you will pack his bags, change the locks, and kick him out of the house. Be sure to follow owing to, if not he will lose respect for you and repeat this cycle yet again.
there’s no way to get over it, but you can get owing to it and you will stronger and more self sufficient than before. G/L
Pack up and go, or change the keys while he is gone and leave his bags at the door. You won’t get over it-he won’t stop cheating and your self respect will suffer more than you know. Pack it in and rebuild your life. Excellent Luck!
Get rid of him. Once someone has cheated, even if you can forgive them, you will never forget it. It will be there memorable your relationship. Once someone has cheated it will permanently be in your mind “why are they late? Are they cheating again?” Not each offense deserves a second chance. I know I could never get past it.
wow, since you were dating?! leave him. splatter water in his face, burn his clothes, punch him in the nads, and leave
You get over it by taking back the potential. You were cheated on and lied to and betrayed. Now you choose what you want. If you want the wedding ceremony to survive, you set the groundrules. He abides by them or foliage. It might also be worth a temporary separation (making him go out) and insisting that he woo you back.
If it’s not worth it, or if you can see he won’t change and you can’t live with that, just divorce him and go on. It’s hard and awkward and you have to do a lot of pretending, but the fact is, he is not worth your like and one day you will wake up and realise that you don’t really give a c**p what happens to him, you’re just pleased to be who you are. That day is worth struggling towards with all your courage and will potential!
I would not stay with a man that had been cheating since before we got married. Your wedding ceremony is a lie. How can you look at him. I would be getting rid of him. This man lied to you on your wedding day.
being as though you are willing to give him another chance shows that you want your wedding ceremony. for both of you to have a healthy wedding ceremony its going to require a lot of hard work from both of you and forgivess (from you) to go on.
If you haven’t done so truly forgive him for what he did, dont keep bringing it up in arguments or conversations but honestly accept and deal with your feelings in this area what happened and forgive him. yes its simpler said than done but this is part of the process if you want to reclaim the wedding ceremony.
on his part he has a lot of work to do as well… he is going to have to build his trust back up with you. this means checking in with you, being open in this area where he is and who he is with etc…not hiding things that he is doing…making you feel as comfortable as possible during this time..
i’m not sure if you have been to counseling yet but definately go for yourself to help deal with the situation..also go together if he is willing to go..
There is no worse feeling in the world than jealousy and not being able to trust your man. If this wedding ceremony is going to work out at all, then he has to prove to you that he is trustworthy and he has to work really hard to regain your trust. He must not ever see this other woman again, no excuses, never, for the wedding ceremony to work out. You might be able to trust him again if enough time passes and if he is remorseful enough, and I mean truly remorseful, for the rest of his life. If he is not sorry, then dump him or you will have a lifetime of horrible feelings ahead of you…..
Let him go, once a cheater, permanently a cheater.
It needs a fantastic dose of like and forgiveness to give your husband a second chance; if you’re not sure his like for you is strong and lasting, it’s not worth even trying to fix your wedding ceremony ’cause the image of the two together along with more and more doubts concerning his whereabouts are going to haunt you. Do you really want to spend your life wondering if he’s really at the grocery store or hanging out with another woman ? Trust is fundamental in a relationship, but he ruined it by cheating on you. Then, honey, it’s up to you : can you live with that ? I couldn’t go on living with my husband in such a quandary. I am very sorry for the way you must be feeling; time will heal, in a way or another.
The git certainly deserves to die all alone. No cosy wifey-wife, no hot mistress. Everyone should just ditch him! Let him burn in hell of his own misery. But the thing is, he’s gonna find (a) fresh victim(s) sooner or later…