When you have suspicions that you have a cheating spouse you can feel very weak and vulnerable. You can also feel like the world is coming to an end and that the earth under your feet is very unstable. You can feel very disorientated and can have a feeling like you are permanently clutching at straws.
That’s how I felt when I suspected I was living with a cheating spouse. So what did I do to find out whether they were cheating or not. Well I used the following 3 simple ways to find out whether my spouse was cheating.
1. Look at their habits. When you live, or are around someone for a period of time you get accustomed to how they operate. People are creatures of habit so it is simple to notice if their habits have changed. If someone suddenly takes an interest in going out with friends that they never mentioned before on a Tuesday night then that will start alarm bells ringing. Also you can add a sudden interest in a leisure activity that just happens to take them out of the house and cannot involve you then this can also be read as an indication that the are up to something that they do not want you to be part of.
2. Look at their attitude. Again be on the vantage point for changes in their attitude to you and how they answer questions. If you get the feeling that your spouse starts talking in a way that sounds vague, i.e. answers questions in a vague, non specific way like saying I’m going out with the girls/guys without at least mentioning anyone particular when questioned then they are trying not to give enough specifics to be trapped out later. Someone without anything to hide will use specifics, like when questioned will say “…well Steve and John were there…” as opposed to replying “you know…the guys”
3. Look at their phone activity. When a spouse is cheating there will usually be a weird call everyplace. It is either one to be made or one that comes in at the ill-treat time. Most likely because they are lying to the other person as well and will have to make arrangements to meet or the other person isn’t aware of the marital situation and calls inadvertently. So watch out for your spouse not answering calls because they do not recognise the number or changing rooms to make a call.
With today’s technology it has become a lot simpler to get the proof that your spouse is cheating and a lot of people have employed private detectives to spy on their spouses. That is no longer a necessary expense as a lot of the products are available over the counter and are capable of being used by everyone without any need for special schooling, only a determination to catch the cheating spouse. There are many air force available today that simply were not available a few years ago meaning that a lot of heartache from the past need not be felt any longer.
Tags: Alarm Bells, Attitude, Cheating Spouse